But I Prayed For This: What to Do When Living in God’s Yes is Harder Than You Expected
The spouse you prayed for is here, but a sadness sets in that you can't explain. The job you prayed for came through, but now you are overworked and overwhelmed. The baby you prayed for has arrived, but you haven’t slept since. You wonder, Isn't an answer to prayer supposed to feel better than this?
Melissa Miller knows the feeling. She moved across the country for a job opportunity and adopted a sibling set from foster care—they were all life changes she prayed for and chose. Only she didn't expect to wake up every morning disoriented, wondering if God picked the right person. She was tempted to push down her struggles because she didn’t want to seem ungrateful. Instead, she dove deep into Scripture, research, and therapy to learn how to keep showing up in a story that felt different from what she'd imagined. In But I Prayed for This, Melissa helps you face the hard parts of "good" transitions as you
drop the guilt and recognize that mixed emotions are normal (and not forever),
grow in gratitude by reframing your thoughts and reclaiming your peace,
let go of the lie that you’re stuck or chose the wrong path, and
allow Jesus to shape your story and your heart in new ways.
But I Prayed for This will give you practical steps to care for your soul, permission to be in process, and reassurance that God's love is big enough for both your gratitude and your grief.
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Reader Reviews
“WOW! I think Melissa said all the things we are too scared to say out loud. Scared for fear that God will think we are ungrateful. Or that others who have been praying for our journey, or simply know the story, will think we're crazy... or ungrateful.
As I read this book, I found myself leaning in and thinking, Maybe I'm not crazy. And then, Maybe I'm not so alone after all. Maybe someone else actually understands.”
— Suzan “Melissa is incredibly encouraging in this book to come alongside the woman who is just not sure what to do with all the feelings. I have been there SO many times, and I appreciate her practical help and biblical truth…
I have made SO many notes and will refer back to this book for those gems of truth when I need them.”
—Kimberly“This book is like having a dear friend sitting beside you, walking through the vulnerable, difficult-to-admit parts of life… Melissa comes alongside to explain the spiritual and psychological reasons our answered prayer might feel so tough to live in. An all too common reality of the Christian life is woven together with humor, honesty, relatablity, and a whole lot of heart in order to wisely counsel us through these unexpectedly challenging "yes" seasons.”
— Liz